I'm the one who has to get Phil around to get what he needs, and then he gets screaming at me while I'm driving, even when I'm in the right, like just now, a guy was stopped wanting to pull in, and he was waving me on to go, I had to cross 4 lanes of traffic to turn left, and Phil is screaming at, Go! Why aren't you going? I didn't go because I saw a car coming through the windows of this big truck blocking the other lane, and if I had to listen to both of them it would have been a major accident. I did my own screaming back at him, and then, he's the victim, I'm verbally abusing him. It's like this constantly, I retaliate, especially when its totally unproked and undeserved, then he claims I'm verbally abusing him. It's happened so many times, I lost track, all toxic relationship, all because of alcoholism.